婚姻,能让亲密关系变得更坚固、稳定吗?
可事实上,当双方都足够相爱——非常满意彼此的关系、愿意为彼此付出、不在这段关系之外有更多的选择,这指向的应当是一段拥有了稳固承诺的关系(Rusbult, etal., 1998),而这种关系并不必然等同于“婚姻”。
可以说,真爱的最终归宿是承诺,但承诺并不一定非得是婚姻。(也许我们一时想不出除了婚姻之外的其他形式的关系,可这却也恰巧印证了这种建构所带来的影响)
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