婚姻,能讓親密關係變得更堅固、穩定嗎?
可事實上,當雙方都足夠相愛——非常滿意彼此的關係、願意爲彼此付出、不在這段關係之外有更多的選擇,這指向的應當是一段擁有了穩固承諾的關係(Rusbult, etal., 1998),而這種關係並不必然等同於“婚姻”。
可以說,真愛的最終歸宿是承諾,但承諾並不一定非得是婚姻。(也許我們一時想不出除了婚姻之外的其他形式的關係,可這卻也恰巧印證了這種建構所帶來的影響)
2019. 日劇《我,到點下班 わたし、定時で帰ります。》.
真愛的最終歸宿是承諾,
那麼想要擁有真愛的我們,
怎麼做才能維護和增進關係中的承諾,
離真愛更近一點?
回覆【承諾感】,收穫7個提升承諾感的有效方法
References:
Baer, D. (2017). There’s a word for the assumption that everybody should be in arelationship. Science of Us.
DePaulo, B. (2012). Should marriage be abolished, minimized, or left alone? Psychology Today.
Livingston, G & Caumont, A. (2017). 5 Facts on love and marriage in America. Pew Research Center.
Gahran, A. (2017). Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life. Off the Escalator Enterprises LLC.
Rusbult, C.E., Martz, J. M., & Agnew, C. R. (1998). The investment model scale: Measuring commitment level, satisfaction level, quality of alternatives, and investment size. Personal relationships, 5(4), 357-387.
Singal, J. (2016). The new science of single people. Science of Us.